#DR. HENRY CLOUD NECESSARY ENDINGS PROFESSIONAL#

Leaders sometimes even get addicted to high performance and push their people more and more, because the glow of the last milestone has worn off and they need their next fix. The list goes on.Ĭorner #3 is anything we turn to that will make us feel good-but in reality does have a lasting enhancement of our lives, nor does it meet the need inside to really connect with people who fuel and guide our growth and development. Being idealized or admired by others in the company or circle of friends. Or, the more acceptable versions: Making more money. Gravitating to friends or co-workers who only think you are “wonderful” and never give any negative feedback. A hobby that gets way too much of your heart, time or money. And there is no shortage of options.Īn illicit relationship or illicit sex. It provides relief from the pain and stress, and a place to hide from it all. After a while, we might say, “I just want to feel good.” So, we connect to something or someone that does exactly that…it feels good. And that brings us to Corner #3: Pseudo Connection.Ī pseudo connection is a connection we pursue in order to feel good in some way. These substances or people will feel just as bad, if not worse, and will likely cause even more destruction as time goes on. The bad news is that the they are painful in the end. In fact, the connections in next corner can feel really, really good. The good news is that not all less-than-helpful connections are painful…at first. Not a very good menu of options, those two! The second was Bad Connection ( Corner #2) where we have relationships that leave us feeling “bad” in some way. The first was No Connection ( Corner #1) where none of our needs are met because we are cut off from anyone who can provide what we need. to make it happen! Now, not later.In our ongoing discussions on relational connections, we have seen two really bad options so far. In my opinion, the greatest challenge of a leader. When To Read This Book: You KNOW when a end is near or should be, yet we put off the inevitable. Endings are part of life with this book, they can be a productive, positive part. You may not view all endings as 'happy,' but you will come at them from a more centered place. This book is one of my favorites because it applies to everyone and every conceivable type of end. Cloud offers the advice you need to let go, learn, and move on. No matter what type of 'ending' we're talking about, the truth is we're not all that good at it. The goal is to move away from bad/sad/unhealthy/futile situations and move towards happiness and success. Further he offers practical advice for planning and implementing change. He guides you through recognizing when an ending is necessary, and which relationships, products, projects, and partnerships are worth pursuing and which are not. This book is about seeing the possibility and promise in endings.Ĭloud uses his background in clinical psychology to help you understand that 'necessary endings' can leave room for opportunity and growth. We don't end an unhappy relationship we don't fire a toxic employee we don't stop pouring time and resources into failed products. We often remember beginnings with fondness, but endings seem to hold a sad/mad/bad space in our heads and hearts. Whether it's the ultimate ending (death), the parting of friends or spouses, or the dissolution of business partnerships, endings are everywhere.

Larry's Two Cents: Endings are a part of life. Intended Audience: Business leaders, owners, managers, and folks who are facing an 'end' in some aspect of their lives.

Cloud is a clinical psychologist and business expert two disciplines he fuses in order to help leaders improve skills, relationships, and performance.

#DR. HENRY CLOUD NECESSARY ENDINGS PROFESSIONAL#

Book Title and Edition: Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships that All of Us Have to Give Up In Order to Move Forward.Ĭondensed Review/Thesis: Endings are inevitable, and with the right perspective, they can lead to personal and professional growth.Īuthor's Background: Dr.

Dr. henry cloud necessary endings